October 12, 2002

• Ok, I'm not Ms. Manners or anything but I have something bugging me and I need feedback on it.

  
  

  I was invited to a baby shower.  It was being thrown for someone whom I used to hang out with a lot we'll call her A), now we don't really talk but I still like her.  When we were seeing each other once a week or so I kept telling her to get my number from my cousin (who introduced us) and she said that she would but then she never did.  She did, however, come to MY baby shower that my cousin threw.  Granted I made sure to have the shower in her neck of the woods (1+hr away from where I live).  Wow, there is a LOT to this so it might get a little lenghty....

  
  

  Ok, my cousin (actually DH's cousin, but doesn't matter really), lives 1.3 hrs north of here, I used to go up there about once a week on the weekends when DH would go fishing and my mom would have my oldest (LT wasn't born yet).  I got her to know her friends and we all hung out together.  Well I got preggo with LT and my cousin wanted to throw me a baby shower, being as I didn't have many friends other than 'hers' I invited everyone and I made sure to hold the shower up there where they all lived.  I did invite some people that lived down here (family and one friend).  Well no one showed up except C (cousin) and A and her DH (we'll call him H), then of course my DH.  Well I thanked them, of course and I was a little disappointed that no one else showed up but hey, them's the breaks I guess, right?  Besides, I'm not sure when C sent out the invitations either, I had to keep reminding her that these people needed 2 weeks noticed, MINIMUM.

  
  

  So on with the story......A and I have a LOT in common and I kept telling her to get my phone # from C and call me.  She always said that she would yet she never did.  Well then, C tells me that A is finally pregnant, YAY! I was really happy for her but hell, she'd been pregnant for 4 months and no one had told me (I don't talk to C very much either).  So then C tells me that she's going to throw A a baby shower, and of course I was invited (double YAY!) well.......I hear nothing about anything, for MONTHS...that is until this past Thursday. 
   I open the mailbox and C has sent me something so I open it....it's an invitation to A's baby shower.  Well I put it off to the side thinking that it's a week or so away, then I grab it later on and check the date, it's for SATURDAY, yeah, like THIS Saturday.  Well DH and I had a ton of things to do we're fixing up the house.  Besides who in their right fucking mind sends out an invitation TWO DAYS in advance???????????  So I realized that I got NO notice and I tell DH 'Well I don't know what I'm going to do."  Then I notice the time....get this folks, 8pm!!! And it's at a Mexican Restaraunt somewhere in town at 8pm (NIGHTTIME!).  Well let's see that would mean that I had to leave here no later than 6:45 but probably 6:15 so that I can find the place.  Then I wouldn't get home until some ungodly hour early the next morning.  Plus I'd be drinking, probably, then have to drive back.  Not a good idea.
  Then I get home Thursday night from my sis's and DH says that C IM'd him and basically laid a guilt trip on him about how A was the only one at my baby shower and the least I could do was show up and that A *REALLY* wanted me there (why hadn't she called me in the past 2.5 years then, oh wait she's NEVER called me).  So then I tell DH "Well ya know, I bet she sent the invites out later because everyone else knew about the shower, except me of course, but I should just rearrange my schedule for it anyway, nothing's more important than someone who has never called me.  So I had to call C and tell her that I couldn't make it because DH had to work, well I call and of course she doesn't answer and I leave voicemail telling her to give me A's address so that I can send the gift (that I had to run out and buy rather quickly, thankfully we re-financed when we did or I'd be broke).  Well she hasn't called me back and I'm sure that she's pissed at me along with A.  Thing is that if they ARE pissed, they have NO REASON to be.  I mean they didn't give me ANY noitce who says that I wasn't planning on doing something else this weekend?  The giult trip that was thrown onto DH pissed me off more than anything.  He told her that he couldn't speak for me that she'd have to call me herself (which she RARELY does, even when she's coming to visit, she'll message DH on the computer then it's a whole up in the air thing of "Well I *might* come over around maybe 8pm but might be 7" So we have to sit around until 5 or so (sometimes 7) when she finally DOES call and says she won't be making it.

  
  

  So the deal is, I'm invited to a baby shower where the guest of honor REALLY REALLY REALLY wants me to come, yet this chick has NEVER tried on her own to contact me or form any sort of realtionship.  Now they are all probably pissed at me for not being able to come even though I was given a whole 48 hours notice (and no she couldn't have sent the invitation a few days earlier it takes MAYBE 2 days to get mail from there).....but even if the mail DID take a little longer, she should have given me 2 weeks minimum.  But no one thought about that and now I get ostracized for it...well not really ostracized because I don't hang around them ANYWAY! GAWD! I really care too much about how others percieve me and this is just bugging me, not as much as I thought it would but it's a little unnerving to think that there is a whole gaggle of people that are probably bashing my name as I type this...

  
  

  So, I'm off to make Cuervo margaritas and watch HGTV....uuggghhh...THIS, THIS is why I don't like to have too many friends, or the one[s] I do have are/is VERY low maintance (you know who you are, out there reading this behind my back actin' all sly! )

  
  

  Wastin' away again in Margaritaville........

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